About three-quarters of UK funerals involve a cremation and although the ceremony might be short, you can make it as personal as you wish.
On this page we give you information about:
1. Forms required for a cremation
2. What happens at a cremation?
3. Disposal of the ashes
Forms required for a cremation
The funeral director can usually deal with the paperwork on your behalf. If you are organising it yourself, the crematorium will supply forms to apply for a cremation and to give you instructions about what happens to the ashes after the service. We explain which forms are required in Funeral paperwork.
Make sure you send the forms to the crematorium at least 24 hours before the service so that the cremation can be authorised.
What happens at a cremation?
There is most commonly a funeral service prior to cremation, and this can be held anywhere – at home, in a community centre, a church or in the crematorium prayer room.
On arrival at the crematorium, the mourners usually assemble outside and follow the coffin into the crematorium. Sometimes people prefer to enter the chapel and sit down before the coffin is brought in, or have the coffin brought in before the mourners arrive.
When the words of committal are spoken, the coffin passes out of sight, either sinking into a recess, passing through a door or being concealed by a curtain. It then goes to the committal room to await cremation.
Each coffin is loaded individually into a cremator after the name on the coffin plate has been checked by the crematorium staff. Once the committal has been made, it is illegal to remove the coffin or anything from it, other than the flowers.
When the cremation process is complete, after two or three hours, the ashes are removed. Any metals, such as hip implants, are separated out. The human remains are then ground to evenly textured ashes, which are put into a labelled container.
Staff ensure there is correct identification of the remains throughout the cremation process, because people are often anxious to know they have the right ashes.
How long will the service last?
Crematoria work to a strict appointments system, so services must be fairly short, unless a special booking is made for a longer period, which will cost extra.
Most crematoria allow 30 minutes between ceremonies, some allow 45 minutes, and a few only 20 minutes. If you want more time, some people choose to have the committal first and then hold a longer, more celebratory event afterwards at another venue.
Pacemakers and other implants
You will be asked whether your relative or friend had a pacemaker or any other medical implants. Some of these items have to be deactivated or removed before cremation as they can cause damage. This can be done by the hospital or the funeral director, and there may be a charge.
Music at the crematorium
Music is often part of the service, from having something playing as people come in, to during the eulogy and to mark the departure of the coffin. An organ is usually available – you will need to pay for an organist - or music can be played over a sound system or performed live, allowing a more personal choice.
If you bring CDs or a music player, make sure they are clearly labelled and specify which tracks are to be played and when.
Disposal of the ashes
Ashes are normally given to the funeral director. If you are collecting them yourself, they are usually ready on the day following the funeral, although they may be obtained on the same day if the funeral is taking place before midday. A Certificate of Cremation will be provided with the ashes.
Scattering the ashes at the crematorium
The crematorium grounds are usually known as a garden of remembrance. Such ground is not usually consecrated, and the place where ashes are scattered is not normally marked. Some crematoria scatter the ashes around on the surface of the grass or earth; others bury them under the turf.
Disposal of the ashes elsewhere
Ashes can be buried in a casket in a graveyard or green burial grounds (see Planning a burial). However, there is no law about what happens to cremated remains and they can be scattered anywhere, provided this is done respectfully and with the consent of the owners of private grounds.
The funeral director can arrange to scatter the ashes for clients in a chosen location, but many people choose to scatter the ashes at a location that was special to the deceased.
If you dispose of the ashes yourself:
- Make sure you have the landowner’s permission.
- Bear in mind that many people are surprised at the volume of ashes when they scatter them.
- Remember to check the wind direction and that people stand upwind.
Scattering the ashes at sea or in the sky
There are companies who deliver and scatter ashes almost anywhere in (or beyond) the world – including via fireworks or rockets – but be aware that not all courier companies will agree to transport cremated remains.
You can ask the Royal National Lifeboat Institution to help scatter ashes at sea. This is at the discretion of the coxswain of the local crew, and a donation to the RNLI would be expected.
What if we don’t collect the ashes?
Some crematoria will keep ashes for up to one month before making a charge to store them. Before this happens the crematorium must give 14 days’ notice by writing to the person on the documentation at the time of cremation. If there has been no prior instruction, the ashes are strewn in the garden of remembrance.
- Funeral costs: includes a breakdown of the cost of cremation.
- The process of registering a death: what documents to take with you and what forms you will come away with.
- Choosing a funeral director: how to find a good local funeral director and the questions to ask.
Page first published: December 2015
Next review due: October 2017