Key questions to ask yourself
When you start making plans for a funeral of a loved one, it can be helpful to think through these questions to ensure you’re moving in the right direction.
- Did the deceased make their wishes clear?
- Did they leave any instructions about their funeral in a will, or did they discuss this with family members before their death?
- Should you opt for a cremation or burial?
- Is there a pre-paid funeral plan?
- What sort of ceremony do you and other relatives or friends want, if any?
- Do you wish to use a funeral director?
- What will the funeral cost?
- Who will pay for the funeral?
- What paperwork is needed?
- Who do you need to tell?
What were the deceased’s wishes?
Knowing what your loved one wanted to happen after their death can be immensely helpful. Your loved one may have left instructions for their funeral service in their will, or discussed their wishes with family members. They may have specified whether they wanted a burial (also known as interment) or a cremation. If not, this may be determined by his or her faith and cultural tradition, but cost may also be a factor (see more information on our article about funeral payments).
Before making any arrangements, check if there was a pre-paid funeral plan, in which case everything should already be taken care of. You should also check if there was a will. A person’s wishes for their funeral are not legally binding on the next of kin, even if they’re written in the will. But it can be comforting to know that you’re following their wishes.
In some cases, there may be practical reasons why it’s not possible to fulfil all of their wishes. For example, there may not be enough money to do everything that has been requested, or the deceased may not have left space within a ceremony for a eulogy or tribute to be given, and the family may wish for it.
The stages of arranging a funeral
The next steps in the process are:
- Choosing a funeral director
- Plans for the service itself if you’re holding one
- Cremation service or planning a burial – including deciding on the location of the burial or what happens to the ashes
- Funeral payment.
Planning ahead for your own funeral
You may choose to put plans in place for your own funeral. This gives you peace of mind knowing that your funeral will reflect your wishes. It can also make things easier for your bereaved family and friends at a difficult time. Find out how to record your wishes and plan ahead – Planning your own funeral.
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