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Looking after yourself

If you care for a loved one, it can be easy to forget about your own needs. So, we’ve created a practical guide on how to look after yourself.
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Taking time for yourself Leisure activities for carers Healthy eating
Taking a break from caring

Taking time for yourself

The UK’s ageing population means that an increasing number of people are caring for a loved one and that this can take its toll. Research published by Carers UK in 2018 showed that almost three quarters of carers in the UK have suffered from mental ill health as a result of caring and well over half say their physical health had worsened. In the same research, carers said the main stressors contributing to their anxiety was insufficient sleep, providing the hands-on care for the person they care for, and managing financially.


If you’re a carer, it can be difficult to find time for yourself, but remember that your health and wellbeing are important, too. If you’re happy and well, you’re better able to provide help and support to others.

If you’re a carer, it can be difficult to find time for yourself, but remember that your health and wellbeing are important, too.

Try to make time for your own interests whenever you can. If you spend a lot of time thinking about, or caring for, someone else, a bit of ‘me time’ can do you the world of good – taking your mind off your responsibilities and helping to recharge your batteries.


Of course, finding that spare time is easier said than done. You might find it helpful to have a plan of action to make sure you have time for your leisure activities. Setting aside a few hours every week when you do a class or activity can be a way of achieving that.


If the person you’re looking after needs continuous care, talk to another relative or friend to see if they can take over caring duties for a few hours a week, on a regular basis. Our guide to respite care can also give you useful advice on how to arrange short- or long-term respite care, including getting support from day centres.


Leisure activities for carers

  • Keeping fit: exercise isn’t just good for your physical health, it can be a way to relieve stress, boost your self-esteem and make you happier, too. Try to make time for something you enjoy, whether that’s running, swimming, yoga or a gentle stroll in the park. If you prefer to work out with someone else, have a look at local classes, gyms and walking groups, or speak to friends to see if anyone fancies joining you.
  • Hobbies: joining a class can be a really good way of meeting other people, learning new skills or doing an activity that you love. Perhaps you like painting or photography? Or maybe you’d like to learn more about computers, first aid or study a new language? If classes aren’t your thing, reading books by your favourite authors or indulging in a spot of gardening might be a good way for you to relax – take a look at the Which? Gardening magazine for inspiration.
  • See your friends: try meeting friends or family members over an afternoon coffee or go out for dinner. It will give you a chance to talk about things other than your caring responsibilities.
  • Learning something new: your local library can provide information about social activities, events, education and courses. The University of the Third Age (U3A) can tell you about courses in your area.
  • Facebook groups: if you enjoy using Facebook, there may be a local support group with their own page so that you can interact with other carers and get support.
  • Join an online forum: Carers UK has an online forum where carers chat, share their experiences and ask for advice from other carers.

Carers UK

A national membership charity that champions carers’ rights, connecting and supporting carers online and in local communities.

Carers UK

Join the forum for chat and support:

Carers UK Forum

Advice line for benefit checks and advice on financial matters:

0808 808 7777

Normally open Mon and Tue, 10am–4pm

The carer’s assessment can be a good way to access leisure activities. For example, if the local authority decides that you have eligible needs, it might provide funding for a gym membership or regular respite care so that you can pursue your interests.


Your local carers’ organisation will have details of activities for carers in your area. You can search for local carers’ groups using our care services directory.

Support groups near you
Use our directory to find support groups for carers and people living with dementia.

Healthy eating

We all know that healthy eating is important, but if you’re busy cooking and shopping for someone else it can be easy to let your own eating habits slip. A balanced diet is good for your all-round health, fitness and wellbeing.


Here are a few quick tips on how to make healthy eating easier to fit into your daily life.

  • Plan meals: deciding what to cook every day can be a pain, particularly if you’re busy. One solution is to plan your meals in advance. Sit down once a week and make a list of meals for the next seven days and then shop for the ingredients all at once. You’re less likely to forget things if you shop with a list. And you’re more likely to eat a proper meal if everything you need is already in your cupboards or fridge.
  • Online shopping: if you find it difficult to get out to the supermarket, online shopping can be quick and easy. You can shop from the comfort of your own home at any time of the day or night, and food is delivered straight to your door. Which? members can read our monthly comparison of supermarkets to see which supermarkets rate the best, and worst, for online shopping.
  • Batch cooking: if you’re busy caring, you’re unlikely to have time to produce top-quality meals every night of the week. Batch cooking is a great way to prepare meals in advance. Cook a huge casserole, shepherd’s pie, Bolognese sauce, curry or chilli, and then freeze individual portions to reheat when you’re hungry.

Taking a break from caring

If you provide care for a relative, friend or neighbour, there will be times when you need to take a break: to attend appointments, go to a class or simply to take time out. You might want to arrange alternative care for the person you care for – either in their own home or somewhere else. Or you could arrange a respite holiday – either for yourself, the person you care for or both of you together.

If you haven’t had a carer’s assessment, it’s worth getting one as many local authorities can offer respite care to those who are eligible for help.

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Further reading

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Last updated: 18 Sep 2018